• chiliedogg@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Lots of things like grey hair, moving more slowly, injuries that I would have bounced away from before instead hurting for weeks or months.

    But the one that hit hardest was a breakup I had a little while back. She was the love of my life and I fully intended to marry her, and when she ended it out of nowhere I was sad, but fine. She dumped me, and it sucked, but I also needed to finish a staff report for a Planning and Zoning Commission meeting that night. So I moved on.

    The thing that upset me most was that I wasn’t that upset. There was a time in my life when I would have been a mess. But as I’ve aged, my emotions have become more regulated.

    I miss being capable of that level of joy and pain.

    • FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world
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      7 days ago

      Love definitely hits different in your 20’s. Though, the plus side is when something ends I don’t obsess over it like I did as a young man.

      I remember in the mid-2010’s when Guns n Roses decided to reunite and tour, and my first thought was: “Why would I want to watch Axl Rose now that he’s old and fat?” That was a sign.