Artist, musical performer, and former derby skater from the Midwest.

I’m single, childless, and married to freedom and adventure.

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ACAB, Anti-War, and I hate both Democrats and Republicans

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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Yeah, mine was an alcoholic for 25 years but inexplicably quit cold turkey one day when I was a teen.

    I think it’s just a ton of undiagnosed, untreated mental illness. My mom’s mother was abusive and her loving father died when she was a teen. My dad’s dad died when he was eleven and he became the breadwinner for his mom and siblings, and didn’t stop working for another sixty-five years. (Well, he drives for DoorDash now, so I suppose he’s still working, but it’s a far cry from roofing.)

    I actually feel a little bad for my dad. He worked his ass off his whole life and has almost nothing to show for it, but somehow, could never put his foot down when it came to my mom and adding more kids to the family. In most other countries his lifetime of work and owning a business would have meant a comfortable retirement, but not here. In America, no one gives a fuck.



  • Yes.

    I have a home, a good job, and am able to save enough that it’s possible I may be able to retire in my fifties.

    The only responsible decision my parents made was to pay off their house. They had over a dozen kids and my dad literally roofed houses until he couldn’t anymore physically. They’re now in their 80’s and driving for DoorDash, in a car they’ve “borrowed” from me for almost a year, that I’m certain I’m never getting back.

    And, somehow, despite having no mortgage or car payment, they still aren’t paying their bills on time. (But, to be fair, that’s also a referendum on the US economy and capitalism in general, and none of us can get actual progressives elected.)










  • This might sound a bit simplistic, but try different things. Different people process info in different ways, and you’ll never figure out what you don’t know that you don’t know if you don’t consider different perspectives and techniques.

    I have several teammates at work that process information better by having meetings and talking through various projects and concepts whereas I need to throw on headphones, become dead to the world, and focus to achieve my best state for thinking through things. I retain information better by typing or writing it out by hand, which I attribute to growing up with video games.





  • Time in the market vs timing the market

    Absolutely a good way to go as well, especially if you drop that cash in fee-free index funds (Vanguard’s a good way to go) or an ETF like VTI. This is absolutely the best way to go if you’re an undisciplined investor, lack patience, or just want to set it, forget it, and watch your growth over time.

    I just think it’s also useful to have cash on the side so you can take advantage of crashes. You only get a handful of them in a lifetime and they are 100% the best opportunity to buy. I paid off my student loans with profits I made grabbing oil stocks in March 2020 for pennies on the dollar.


  • Find one small thing you can cut out and save that money every week in a savings account.

    When the market crashes like it did in 2008 and 2020, take every one of those dollars and put it in stocks, because during a crash, you can often get high value stocks at a huge discount that wouldn’t exist in normal market conditions.

    Wait 2-3 years for the market recovery and sell that stock at a profit.

    Also, don’t wait until your 30’s to get a set of silk sheets.

    If you’re happy alone, be alone. You don’t have to get married. You don’t have to get kids. Those things suck to have if you do not want them in the first place.