depends on the age obviously…but I wouldn’t care. wear protection and be open about things.

If my kid grows up to be half as good looking as his mother and half as lucky as his father, it’s already going to be a perfect storm. The forces at play would far exceed the power of any door.

That seems ridiculous. If my kid wants to have sex they’d just find another way to do it outside of their house.

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no?! I dont wanna see them have sex wtaf

Lmao. “Parents of lemmy…”

Responses: if i ever have kids…

That’s a really good question.

My first two trains of thought would be 1) door open, or 2) no going to your room to be alone with the person you’re attracted to. But at the same time, I remember that it’s going to happen, regardless of what I do or say, and my first concern is that they are safe.

So really, I don’t know what I’d do, and I’m not looking forward to finding out in the foreseeable future (I have a tween now, so my days are numbered).

Why bother? It never stopped me or anyone I knew from a little hanky panky.

You asked it two different ways, in the title you asked if they’d need to keep the door open (my answer is ‘no’), but in the body text, you asked if I would allow them to close the door (my answer is ‘yes’).

But, I grew up in the 70s, so people weren’t so uptight then, at least the parents I dealt with weren’t. So, I didn’t have any rules for my son, and, had I had a daughter, I wouldn’t have had any rules for her.

In fact, I’d be happier if they were at home, they’d be safe at home.

While I’m not a parent, I know a married couple who told me about giving their teen kids “the talk”, which was about STD protection and an edict to use rubbers.

But, I think you’re asking us to weigh in about your own parents’ choices, and it’s not our place to do that. They get to decide their own comfort zone. It sounds like they are reasonably enlightened and that’s the best you can hope for. It also might be that they don’t want you disengaging too much from the rest of the household when you’re at home, as opposed to trying to be controlling about your sex life.

From what you’ve described it seems their main concern was you not getting pregnant.
As to whether it was the best strategy, depends on their beliefs and what other options you and your boyfriend had.

Early children ruin lives. Early sex with out risk of child is fine.

Every parent of a gay or bisexual child iv ever talked to about this topic has had the same thought process.

If not for the risk of early grandkid then they wouldn’t really care.

Teenagers are horny they going to do what animals do. But they arnt smart enough generally to do it safely in most cases.

As long as they use contraceptive they can do whatever they want. And by that I mostly mean IUD and pills because condom are trash that make sex not worth having

In Austria, where I’m from, sex ed in school gets a brief introduction at age 10 when learning about the human anatomy, gradually learning more in biology class. Before ending middle school, there’s a mandatory intensive sex ed course, at least that was the thing 17 years ago.

Condoms were primarily advertised as medical products for preventing from sexual diseases, and only secondly as pregnancy preventions.

1 in 10 has had sex with 14 years old in my country, keep it safe, better at home with condoms than in the woods without. If they want to, they’ll find a way.

I wont cast a judgement one way or another on how to approach this, but just know that it is an incredibly common rule. Every girlfriend I had growing up had this same rule, or even more strict. For one I wasn’t allowed in her bedroom at all when I came over.

It sounds like your parents are perfectly including your identity in their decision. I know from experience that the rule sucks, especially when you aren’t even planning to do anything and just want to hang out in a comfortable space. But it is common, and quite reasonable considering how other parents might approach it.