Counseling is the way to go. It’s going to take a lot of time, a lot of opening up, and being honest with your counselor and yourself. Don’t expect to see results immediately. You will get frustrated with the process. But you have to keep going.

Also, don’t be afraid to find a new counselor if your current one isn’t working for you. And only you will know what that means. But when you find the right one, it will make a huge difference for you.

At the same time, you may need to give your therapist multiple chances. What I mean by that is that you will not always see eye to eye with them. And that’s okay; especially if they’re challenging you to move past something big. But if you constantly feel something is off, then trust your gut. This is about what’s best for you.

I genuinely wish you the very best of luck.

This bears repeating:

These issues are not mutually exclusive, and it is legitimately okay for one marginalized group to be concerned more for things that directly affect them. That does not in any way negate the urgency or importance of any other issues.

We need to stop treating everything going on as a binary (black and white) problem. That’s what they want us to do, and why we’re being bombarded with so many bad things all at once. They are purposely dividing us, and so far it’s working.

These issues are not mutually exclusive, and it is legitimately okay for one marginalized group to be concerned more for things that directly affect them. That does not in any way negate the urgency or importance of any other issues.

We need to stop treating everything going on as a binary (black and white) problem. That’s what they want us to do, and why we’re being bombarded with so many bad things all at once. They are purposely dividing us, and so far it’s working.

It could be both. This administration is not exactly above being petty or manipulative.

~I know you know that, but it still should be said out loud at all available opportunities.~

That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.

I wanted to take a moment to offer a different perspective. It sounds like your friend is disassociating. That doesn’t make him a bad dad. It just means he might be dealing with things that he is trying to protect himself from on an emotional level. I won’t try to conjecture what they are, because I don’t know him nor do I know his situation. And if you’re willing to take my advice, I’d suggest giving him the benefit of the doubt and just being there for him; whatever that may look like. You might even try to ask him about it (but be willing to accept that if there is something going on, he may not be ready or willing to talk about it).

Good luck to your friend.

The enemy of my enemy and all that shit.

That’s a really good question.

My first two trains of thought would be 1) door open, or 2) no going to your room to be alone with the person you’re attracted to. But at the same time, I remember that it’s going to happen, regardless of what I do or say, and my first concern is that they are safe.

So really, I don’t know what I’d do, and I’m not looking forward to finding out in the foreseeable future (I have a tween now, so my days are numbered).

I wouldn’t consider “democrats” like Fetterman actual democrats. They’re there just for the votes, and then will push whatever fucked up agenda they can to kiss Republican ass.

Oh no! I hope the other driver is okay!

I’m generally a nice person who wants to help and do right by other people. But, I also have to balance that with my abundant paranoia and distrust of people. So I dunno.

They certainly seem to be a master at it.

If Charlie Kirk is the barometer for what’s American, then I will gladly be called un-American.

What would shock or surprise me is if in light of this “travesty”, any meaningful legislation gets drafted and passed.

It’s more than being rolled into Microsoft. It’s being owned by their AI team.

I wish Stewart would run for office.

With a username like that, I’d highly recommend staying away from buildings with windows that extend beyond the first floor.

Fight fire with fire… and brimstone. Lots of brimstone. 😈

I wonder how that would affect any possible signing bonuses the soldiers got when they signed up. Are they going to have to pay any money back? Are they going to have access to their GI Bill?