Too much or not enough is wrong so deduct from your personal score accordingly
If this is one of your Mind War Accounts then don’t answer, it could show weakness
It is a skill I possess and deploy as needed
Not very. I’m autistic. I’m usually okay with people I know but it’s hard with new people. At my job we had a secret shopper and I got marked down for not making eye contact. I wanted to inflict violence upon that person. Wish I knew who they were. Also, I don’t owe them shit. No one is entitled to eye contact from me or anyone else.
i can do it but it tends to use up a pretty big chunk of my conscious
Do you think they can tell
depends on the circumstances and my energy levels but sometimes sure
it’s frustrating as hell in job interviews trying to make positive eye contact and be able to think properly
That’s the neat part. I don’t!
I have to force myself to look at the person I’m talking to because some people want eye contact. I find it distracting and I find it easier to focus on what we’re talking about if I look aside from them.
Is this one of those you are now breathing manually tricks? Because I’m virtually never conscious of this.
Oh hey
I suppose it could be
I’m generally pretty good at it when I am comfortable with someone. But when I am anxious or sad I cannot for the life of me make eye contact with anyone.
I don’t really have a problem with it. If you do (and you haven’t already heard this tip), try focusing right between their eyes. From their perspective you are making eye contact, and from yours it may be enough to lessen the discomfort.
I am immediately aware of how uncomfortable this makes people…so, I try not to do it very often.
Horrible. I’m in my own little world usually. Sometimes if I’m in a super good mood I’ll acknowledge people and nod etc. but otherwise it’s just a glance to make sure we’re not on a collision course and im not walking toward an axe murderer.
Good when I’m listening, bad when I’m talking. Ive been trained by years of online gaming to not look at people while I talk
I’m good at it. But, at the same time, I live in a pretty diverse area and I’ve met plenty of people who are clearly not super comfortable with it. So it’s an interesting balancing act to do it enough to be showing respect but not so much that I creep them out. Mostly I take my cues from their own eye contact levels.
I think I have a good balance of eye contact and eye aversion for most social situations. And can gauge quickly what someone else’s comfort with it is. I do frequently look to the ceiling when thinking (literally looking for answers or a response) so it doesn’t look like I’m staring or glaring at someone while my mind buffers.
I stare without blinking…
