I find it lovely. Cofee. Silence. Writing out the agenda and goals for the day.
What do you early birds do?
If I’m awake at 3am it’s not because I woke up, it’s because I haven’t gone to bed yet.
How drunk are you?
Used to be really bad. Been clean for 10 months now. Fuck alcohol
This is a fantastic answer
Any of my hobbies :) All of them are really nice to do in total silence and peace.
Totally agree. The silence and tranquility
I stair into the dark corner and wait for it to make it’s move.
Why do you find it lovely? I get that you said the night is quite peaceful but then the problem is that you’re sleep deprived the next day.
I never enjoyed that part. How do you deal
Personally I started taking a psych med earlier this year that some people sometimes are prescribed it for non-psych reasons as a sleep aid. So I never have those issues anymore lol!!
I spent about a year practicing going back to sleep. I’ve become pretty good at it, but my job is very sucky right now, so sometimes i forget to turn that off and do the steps.
Getting back to sleep is a skill I urgently need… Did you use any method or training or such?
It sounds so dumb, but it really works for me. I can almost always put myself back to sleep now within a few minutes- except for the nights when I’m really mad at work and, instead of doing the process, i wallow in the misery of insomnia as if that’s somehow hurting the people I hate.
I get in a good position and get my pillow and covers just right. I take 3 breaths and focus really really hard on my breathing. I take 10 breaths to focus on relaxing, being calm, and feeling the comfort of my pillow, the weight of my covers, and how good my bed feels. I start at my feet (both feet on a regular night or one at a time if I’m really struggling) and for 3 breaths i relax them and feel their weight sink into the bed. Then i work my way up, moving to my ankles, lower legs, knees, … taking 3 breaths at each one…and I’m usually asleep before upper legs. The hardest part was learning to focus hard on each breath, in and out, and each feeling, so it fills up your brain and other thoughts won’t fit. If something else creeps in, i reset with 3 focusing breaths, then continue.
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Anyway, maybe lie in bed for a bit, do some reading, eventually get up and make breakfast and coffee. Watch the sun rise. Get some work in before whatever obligations I have in the morning. Sometimes go to the supermarket as soon as it opens because it’s nice and quiet first thing in the morning. Can buy your food for the week without a flood of children running into your stomach.
Yup. Seeing your family scrambling, that’s sanity damaging. Gotta make a move, can’t just stand and be mannequin.
Honestly, I try to get back to sleep for a few minutes and if that doesn’t work, I’ll just get up and start my day. Same happened today at 5am, currently 6am and I already updated my phone, read and replied to my e-mails, spent a few minutes here to read a little, it’s not that bad. My argument is that if I try to lay there I will unconciously make the bed a place where I feel frustrated. So I never lay there half awake or bedrot with my phone in the mornings as both of that will lead to me being unable to properly fall asleep in the evening as I will start hating going to bed. Currently I’m on my couch in a blanket, which isn’t far from bedrotting, but I’m not making the bed a place I resent by choosing to stay in there.
