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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • I was. I was scared for the other person, similar to another commenter. Without me, they were going to have nothing. But I got sick of setting myself on fire to keep them warm, and I was crawling out of my skin with misery.

    Our divorce will be finalized soon and I feel better than ever. Now that I’m on the other side of it all and healing, I just can’t believe how long I stayed. No one in my support network liked them and honestly I really don’t like them either, now that I’m gone.

    And despite all of my fears of them being destitute and depressed, they’ve realized they’re a freaking adult and can stand on their own two feet. Crazy how that works



  • More of an answer to the title question, but absolutely.

    I left home at 18 to join the military, but my high school friends were still close knit. We’ve grown apart, but there are so many wild differences in the group as a whole now that we’re full fleged adults and have been for a little bit. We’re all so different now, it’s pretty wild.

    One had a kid early in her 20s and struggled to get through schooling while raising a kid and supporting her household. She found solid work and had to drop her degree to focus on that. One got into a big company and has fast tracked promotions until moving to another company for big money. Once settled into that, had kids and now is living the classic American upper middle class lifestyle. One happened upon an internship that completely changed her degree trajectory and now she’s incredibly happy in a position no one would have expected for her. I don’t know if kids are on the menu, but she’s certainly enjoying traveling for now.

    And then I’m sort of starting all over after ending a long term relationship and moving and getting a new group of friends locally and and and.

    So absolutely everyone has hugely different priorities. Maybe not as self centered as your mate’s, but life has really worked all of us into different paths.





  • The worst was probably splintering my tailbone. Apparently I have oddly dense bones, so they don’t like to full out break, but just splinter.

    I was snowboarding and trying to keep up with my mom. At the very very end of the run, I snagged my back edge and got slapped so hard to the ground, I’m pretty sure I blacked out for a few seconds (wear a helmet, kids). We rode the rest of the day and I don’t remember much about it all except my butt hurt so bad. I couldn’t sit down normally for over a year. I sat on my knees or in a snow tube in the living room because I couldn’t stand to sit on the couch or in a chair at all.

    A separate incident that might also tie for worst, but I think I fractured my skull when I was around 8? It could just be one of the growth plates, but I have a scar in my skin, and then a serious dent in my forehead in the skull which is attached to a long crack that goes down to my eyebrow before I’m not able to feel it anymore. We didn’t go to the hospital or anything, I just dealt with the swelling and the small split. I did dent the corner beam in our house though. Thick skull I guess?