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  • Yes. Sold a car on a good deal with some tattoo work to be done as small partial payment for the last few hundred.

    The guy had multiple books of what seemed like good work. Turns out things are often taken fresh when they look great. The real artist takes them after their healed.

    Faded, not in my art style asked, it’s entirely not what I wanted, I wanted the words but not the style.

    No I haven’t covered it up, I forget its there. I’ve thought about it. Wish I didn’t get a tattoo to begin with but oh well. Live and learn.




  • At this point you need to be watching sodium due to kidneys, and looking for slightly higher carb contents but not sugars. Dogs don’t have the same metabolism as humans. High fat surely will add weight but sour the stomach and turn it acidy likely theyll eat grass or vomit of its too bad but their bodies will store carbs quicker as their rapid burn or store calories. Up the carbs. Try pastas with a bit of meat test for types they like, think alfredo with chicken or spaghetti with not long noodles, low salt, a ton of lost weight is likely water weight, Chinese foods, vary the diet and feed them what they want like your foods And I’m serious do human foods so simply make more of your foods your eating and share. Heat things up, make it special in their eyes, feed from your own plate encourage table scrap behaviour to keep excitement. Little less fiberous foods but enough to keep the digestive moving. Add a dog probiotic makes a world of difference do it daily, more is not better, normal doseage and consistency is most key. Fish oil. Exercise keeps the body young and appetite hungry.



  • As someone with half that list of health issues. I struggle everyday. Most people even family do not care they can leave, go eat, live life. I cannot. Nobody cares until it’s them. They will never understand, have the compassion, empathy, respect to even try to help you, not even to clean up after themselves for things that make you sick, (gluten issues and they leaves pizza crumbs and greasy pans all over counters and stove). Plenty of sorries to help their emotions feel better though. Nothing for you though. Not money to help with medical things. Not care to keep themselves in order. People do the bare minimum and the world is fine with it.

    I don’t want to live like that, not as a parent, myself, or my family members. Shits hard. I don’t want to die or be dead so I’m not looking to OFF myself but fuck its hard to get through each day. It takes a solid, hard headed, self disciplined, never give up attitude to live like this. Yet you still fail to thrive and have any chance of health.



  • Perhaps that was way over stated. All our interactions are not negative but for the sake of the post I was focusing on those aspects to find tools to improve myself and her to communicate more effectively.

    In no way shape or form are our interactions as basic as that sounded. We function almost entirely normal. Do normal activities, go places, hangout, work and hobbies. When I meant basic interaction I don’t mean she sits on bench and cannot function. I just meant anything outside of typical day to day like intricate displays of emotion or communication about our relationship issues is where the wall hits. Its not trust. Or as dead sounding as that seemed. Its that she lacks ways to articulate her emotions and what to say.


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    I’m very fast paces mentally And physically. I’m ADHD through and through so going slow and feeling tired is not in my mindset. She takes forever, can’t talk deeply, has trouble mentally in all aspects. I’m more like a racecar and she’s like a turtle. Nothing is wrong with that. We have good chemistry. But it’s not easy past the chemistry stage. Because our childhoods, adult mentality are so different.

    Edit: We are very open, direct. We plan sexual activities, we plan almost all activities. But anything past basic conversations gets lost in translation for her. I’m very supportive, we both are for each other. The dynamic is good. Just the communication sucks no matter how much we try. Consistency is her flaw, depth. I am the doer. I do, plan, almost everything. She’s more idle, watch, hands off plans and couldn’t make a decision on where to eat if she tried. Shed starve to death. Highly indecisive.


  • We do all this. We are direct. She has trouble finding the words, or has no clue what to say. I was trying to find tools, resources, and ideas how to empower her to communicate. She wants to talk. Wants to tell me things. But when it’s time to talk or tell me she has no ability to. Not physically she can talk fine. Emotionally and mentally. It’s like a barrier between her brain and communication normal. With words. Like we all do.


  • We are very open, talk directly. She does not explain things well, has no real methods to communicate. We tries writing letters, we have tries texting, but she ends up getting frustrated And upset because she doesn’t know HOW to explain her feelings. She defaults to IDK. She will say that she wants to understand, wants to talk but does not understand her own feelings and thoughts to even know how or what to talk about. So we always just wind up in a stalemate and move on. We basically seem to agree we feel the same emotions but the communication between us is hard due to her inability to express it.

    Edit: So I was asking for tools to use. Methods to try. Anything at all to attempt to gain insight into her. How can we grow and talk if she is incapable of explaining anything even basic emotions and feelings.