“He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action.” Agreed, he overshares way too much and it is going to bite him on the ass at some point.

My closeness with my team is unavoidable and is better I lean into it. We work long shifts and I must interact with them constantly. Managing the children as a kindergarten teacher becomes a lot easier when they like you personally.

“But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks.” I don’t that will fly sadly. He has mentioned it twice now.

“Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move.” You just want to know how this nonsense plays out, don’t you? lol

It is a Sergal and a Protogen. The fact I know without any hesitation for thought is bizarre. lol He is not a bad looking guy, so I am sure he would be fine. Doesn’t make the emotional pain sting any less though.

“He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he’s romantically interested in a coworker who’s been hitting on you. You probably shouldn’t know he’s a furry either.” I was aware he was a furry on his first day with me, he does not hide it whatsoever. It is an open part of his personality that I have just come to accept as it is harmless if not a bit odd. He tends to overshare things so you might be right.

He has taken a strong liking to me for reasons I don’t fully follow other than some of our interests align. I wouldn’t say I discourage it though as I have a discord channel just for our team where people also post memes and things on our off days. I am MUCH friendlier to my staff than your average boss, but I have a strict rule that I will not hang out with any of my coworkers where they cannot all be involved if they wish and I cannot show favoritism. I have only been taken up on that once. I won’t blame him for wanting to trust me with that information, I have been told I look trustworthy or something.

As far as I have seen, she and him are perfectly friendly with each other, now recently working as a team to cause harmless, minor havoc in my life for fun. lol I don’t know the full extent. I do know that they have known each other for a while too and they like to send memes to each other. I just don’t know if the romantic interest is there though. Kind of like having a good friend that is also into you but you don’t share it. I don’t know.

She doesn’t know that I know he asked her out, I would imagine. Would be kind of awkward to bring up as I haven’t even asked her out yet. lol

“Threesome!” Ah yes, the true answer that I was looking for. I should have seen it from the beginning. Haha

Question is, will there actually be one? I do not know.

That makes two of us. lol

I am not her boss, we are at a similar level in different departments. I don’t have to interact with her at all if I didn’t want to. If I did date her, the odds of it coming out to him are high. It would just be a matter of when. He would likely notice that she didn’t follow through on their date plans.

It is an annoyance that I have been dealing with. If it happens again, I am likely going to need to make it official as a problem.

Its not my job to save John, doesn’t mean I won’t feel bad regardless. I do care even if I try not to.

Keeping it quiet is my thought as well, I just don’t know how well it would go as he talks to her a lot and they seem to be friends. He has asked her out and she said yes previously. I think he might notice if she changed her mind.

That is a noteworthy thought. He doesn’t cross me as him knowing or catching her interest when we have all interacted with each other at the same time. Generally when people notice that, they start getting defensive and get somewhat possessive. He was just really happy to share the info like he was gossiping with a good friend.

Fair point. I don’t know if this lemon is worth squeezing or not yet. Only time will tell. She may end up dating him or he may leave all together. I don’t know her well enough yet to make that call. If there is anything that makes sense to me right now, its determining if this is a very juicy lemon without cutting it open.

It is usually good advice to follow as I have seen it turn messy, but life doesn’t always work out that way. The type of person I would date is usually not found anywhere else. I prefer the heavily introverted types and they don’t tend to do a lot of things out where I might find them. Online dating is just depressing even if you do get matches.

I find it a lot harder to get an ideal partner than a job, so I am willing to gamble for the right person.

It is certainly interesting, I will give it that. I have not made it known to Jane of my interest other than having our conversations. I am usually slightly flirty when I talk and I am sure she can see that… As of the moment, I don’t think that would be an appropriate question for her unless I were to ask her out and she agreed to talking about it.

It is a decent thought though I may persue if we get closer.

Jane is at an equal level as me corporate wise. John is a position below me and technically her although they don’t translate the same way for her department.

Office policies on dating are more relaxed. People from the same departments can and have dated each other with no issues although they generally don’t share it. It is usually an open secret.

Cross department doesn’t seem to be an issue whatsoever.