My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.
My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.
(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)
When I was in the ICU for months and I asked my husband to please just tell me it would be ok and he told me no and that he “couldn’t lie anymore” - refused to give me even a drop of comfort in my most dire hour, being ok didn’t have to mean I would live but that he and the kids would soldier on and he would try for them but instead I just got a no and scolded for asking.
Tie between the time I threw my back out changing the car tires and it hurt so bad to breathe I had to lie flat on the ground, and she was mad because it delayed me driving her to go do laundry.
Or the time she was mad about me installing the air conditioner in our apartment to cool down (the cats loved it too), because, “It doesn’t benefit ME”. That was shortly after I asked her to start paying for half of the utilities while I was unemployed. I had been paying them all myself for 3+ years, including the two times she was unemployed in that period.
When I kept having to apologize for their behavior in front of my friends.
After therapy. And even then, only gradually.
When I divorced her and married a normal woman 🤣
I have an aunt who I knew drank a lot but I never personally experienced anything other than the occasional late night “Love you soooo much!!!” when she’d be drinking. She is single with two kids who I get along with nicely and I’ve always wondered why she was single. Then I saw that I got the clean end of a really long stick of shit. She’d text her sisters, my other aunts, telling them they were dead to her, her kids don’t stay home much with her anymore, and she started to tell my mom, who is staying with me, that she should leave. She even tried to attack my sister when she visited me.
I had no idea. Now, I don’t see much of her anymore.
When I looked up the definition of “Emotional Abuse”. It seemed I was the last person to see it.
When one member of the family has given up on joining clubs because their sister always joined the same clubs they did even if they hate that hobby and after a quiet word here and a quiet word there they get them kicked out of the club , which they then get bored with and decide it really is not that interesting after all and return to mocking that hobby.
