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  • Victor@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you were born with a disease that made you blind, complete loss of hearing by 20, have seizures, require a feeding tube, colostomy bag, wheelchair and have sleep apnea. Would you want to live?
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    1 month ago

    Do you want to hang out with them?

    It’s a two-way street. They can’t be the only ones to make contact. You have to make an effort as well. Maybe you have.

    If they tell you they care, I believe that’s the truth. But it’s exhausting being the only one to maintain a relationship. Trust me as someone who loves my friends and family but I am suffering the consequences of not having the energy to make almost any contact, and thus losing a lot of my relationships. I’d love to be closer with my brothers but it’s too much in life right now and forever to make the calls. They used to call me, now they don’t, because I never reciprocated. Even though we love to hang out when visiting each other’s cities.

    I don’t know your situation at all, but I’m telling you that I want you to live, not for my sake or my selfish reasons (I obviously don’t know you and have zero attachments), but because I want you to feel important, because living should make you feel that way. I want this for you simply because I have empathy and sympathy. That’s it. Same as your circle of friends and family probably as well.

    I want you to live, love, and find happiness. 🙂

  • Victor@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Thoughts on moving to another country/learning a new language?
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    2 months ago

    I don’t think I have a word for the feeling I have from seeing people actually emigrating from the USA.

    All my life it’s been the country everyone has been eager to move to.

    It didn’t take me many years of being alive to realize most people moving there were to be made fools unless they already had a life lined up on arrival.

    This was like around 2005, I was graduating the equivalent of high school. My then gf and later wife (then ex wife) wanted me to immigrate to the US. I was like hell nah. That, I told her, was not something I’d be willing to do. So it was either my country or nothing. (She was illegal in the US anyway lol. Fairly simple choice I guess.)

    I think she might be (at least) a Trump defender today. Spoke to her briefly about Trump being reelected and she said he might do the country some good. I was like oh god, of course. So many things make sense now. 🙄😮‍💨