I am extremely open and honest with my views. Nobody believes “any means are justified” in order to create “a state run society.” Communists believe revolution is necessary to implement socialism, not that any means are justified nor that just any state run society is acceptable. We also don’t believe in supporting “dictatorships” in the sense that one person or an elite few control everything. We support the working class having control.
You are making up ghosts and strawmen to fight. These “tankies” as you describe them do not exist.
Socialism and communism seem to be very misunderstood outside of places like Grad, Hexbear, Lemmy.ml, etc. Some thing social programs are socialism, others think the Marxist conception of communism is incompatible with administration, some think any form of market or private property has to be eradicated for socialism to exist, some think it’s about worker/employer relationships, etc. I think it would be a decent idea to form a better understanding.
For clarity, socialism is best described as a transitional status between capitalism and communism, by which public ownership is the principle aspect of the economy (controls the large firms and key industries at a minimum) and the working class is in control of the state. This fits cleanly with socialism in practice and with Marxist conceptions of socialism.