My friends always body shaming me last two years and also abuse me for being attracted to old men which really hurt me because they know everything about me and I treat them like my family. We’ve been friends since teen, I had to move to NY to focus on myself and here I am today, I know I’m not a 10/10 but I tried my best too. So do you guys think I should call them back, I’m so lonely with no partner. I use to enjoy it but I can’t hold it anymore
This is my second post here
Don’t feel ashamed for being attracted to older men. But a word of caution, if you’re in your 20’s, you’ll probably attract older men for the wrong reasons. This was my experience when I was in my 20’s. The people I attracted were just as immature as I was just with way more baggage. As I got older myself I found that to be less and less the case. The divide between 35 and 45 isn’t as big as 25 and 35 as far as life experience goes.
Also don’t give anyone the time of day who doesn’t support you. I don’t mean surround yourself with sycophants, because that’s not support either. Good friends are going to build you up, but also call you out if you’re being dumb. This person doesn’t sound like a good friend.
Like what @[email protected] said:
Learn to be really good at being by yourself. Spending some time alone will be really good for you if you view it as a time for self love and a time to work on yourself. Adulthood can be very lonely at times, and it only gets worse as you get older, so being comfortable with being alone can help you find balance and not feel that loneliness as you age.