I’ve got this horrible neighbour upstairs who might possibly be the loudest person in the western hemisphere. Walking around in heels for hours at a time, phone rings so loud that it’s more effective at waking me up than my alarm, constantly screeching furniture around all day everyday, blasting the same annoying movie at random times, and slamming doors every 15 minutes.
The apartment isn’t even that bad for noise seperation, I never hear the neighbours beside me or the ones under me. This woman is just annoying and I’ve gone upstairs before to tell her to stop blasting music at midnight in the middle of the week, she treated me like I was the maniac for having the audacity to knock on her door.
As I’m laying in bed last night after getting woken up and hoping today is the day she drops dead, I was wondering why she even needs to close doors. When I lived alone I don’t think I ever closed doors, maybe the bathroom on occasion but this old woman lives by herself with no pets yet she’s constantly slamming doors. Do people normally close doors often when they live alone?
I had an upstairs neighbor who wore doc martens around every damn morning around 8 am. I didn’t get up until 9 so I found this awful.
Anywho. I met her in the elevator. And took a peak at her footwear and that’s when I confirmed she was in fact wearing big ass boots. Even in the damn summer!
Anyway. I’m also a woman and a decent judge of foot size. So I ordered her some foam slippers. Size 8. Which is average women’s size and I thought was pretty close.
But I ended up chatting her up a bit about some issue with someone stealing both of ours mail packages. And we decided to grab each other’s mail if one of us was around. We exchanged numbers.
And magically the boot stomping stopped before I could figure out how to offer her the slippers. I had this whole story how I was going to say I ordered them and they sent me the wrong size and yada yada.
I ended up giving them to my sister.
But my point is.
Make semi friends with them. And maybe they will naturally start being more considerate because then they know the person below them.
It’s an accountability thing.
And if that doesn’t work. At least then you are on friendly terms and you can bring up the issues with suggestions on solutions like bumpers for the doors.
You can say “yeah mine are also loud as hell and I added bumpers, I have a pack of them if you want me to bring them by”.
I also got a neighbor’s kid to stop letting his dog poop on my grass. Not by bitching him out but going out and being nice and asking him about his dog. Introducing myself.
It’s a manipulation tactic. But it honestly works very well. They feel guilt instead of feeling vindictive for your hostility.
This is the most rational take by far. If the person you’re working with is reasonable, this is my go-to.
Worth noting you need an ounce of charisma to make it work.
If they aren’t reasonable though…yeah sometimes the only thing left to do is move.
Op says they also talked to the property owner and they aren’t getting anywhere.
Oh I promise I tried. The first time I talked to her was because it sounded like she was rearranging furniture everyday but it would screech across the floor like nails on a chalkboard. Every morning around 7. My mom was going through chemo and radiation at the time so she was already exhausted all the time. One day I decided this was getting too ridiculous so I bought some felt pad stickers you put on chair legs. Brought them up to her, explained my situation calmly and even offered to put the stickers on her chairs for her.
She kept saying I was the guy from the 10th floor (I am not) and that she knows I’ve lived there for years (I had not). After I put the stickers on, she said “ok now get out and stay out!”. Pretty sure she took the stickers off because the screeching got even worse after that interaction. The next time I knocked on her door to ask her to turn her music down at midnight she just yelled at me through the door. This sack of shit has no intention to be friendly unfortunately.
Yikes. Have you talked to the building manager or landlord ?
Ya I’ve talked to the superintendent 4 or 5 times about it. Also had another neighbour across the hall that kept slamming their front door 10+ times a day so hard that my front door would rattle. Both situations he said he talked to them but nothing changed so either he’s lying or the 2 tenants dont give af.
I had to confront the neighbour across the hall personally before he stopped. He called me an asshole when I asked if he could stop slamming the door. The mindset and logic that these people operate on is incredible. The majority of the building are pretty considerate, I just got stuck living by 2 of the most miserable pricks.