My neighbor’s son passed away in April last year and what would have been his son’s 23rd birthday is coming up at the end of the month, so I know the next few weeks are going to be really hard on him.
We’re friends, but not super close. I’d like to do something for him, but can’t think of much beyond bringing over food and/or flowers. Any suggestions?
I can speak to that from a somewhat personal perspective because I lost my older brother a few years ago, which means I got to witness my mom losing a child.
I know that she would have greatly appreciated simple flowers later after his passing. She got a lot of flowers and stuff when he passed, which made her feel like he was very loved by his friends.
But then a year later, only a few people remembered. And I think that’s what hurt her the most after the obvious pain of losing her son. That people forgot.
So if you knew his son, you can write a card about how you still remember him and add flowers to that.
It’s usually not about the actual thing you give him but how it’s presented and the words that go with it.
P.S. you are a good person.
You could organise a meal train, i find it hard to accept help, but last time I suffered a loss, having firends bringing me meals every week was a real weight off my mind (oh this isnt such a recent loss, meals would still help though I’m sure)
also just sitting with them long enough for them to talk about how theyre feeling would be really helpful
Its less about the food or the flowers and more that you took the time to let them know you were thinking of them and how they feel. And as other people have said you are a good person for being so thoughtful.
Send him a homemade frozen casserole. It’s Midwestern for “I care”
