My wife says if we invite our friends and their 3 year olds to my childs birthday at a restaurant that its customary to pay for everyone. Is this reasonable?
Kids parties at home are fun because they are cheap but the downside is you have to host and clean. Parties at destinations are more expensive but you don’t have to clean and if the place is exciting enough you don’t have to host either. Pick your poison.
“stop what you are doing for this and spend your own time and money to be near us”
It is pretty unfair to ask so much of them. If they come out to you then you should be a good host and cover their food. If they want to get drinks that’s their expense.
Yeah and I think this is why a lot of people do house birthday parties. Or at the park or a local free space (some small towns have these).
It’s expensive to throw a party either way. But it’s much cheaper to have a BBQ at your home.
Now days, most younger adults (in the U.S) can’t afford a home. So this limits their options.
Maybe your friends and their 3-year-olds aren’t the best choice for your child’s birthday, and a restaurant might not be the best place for your child’s birthday party at all. I just wanted to mention that, since you didn’t say what your child actually wants or how old it is.
Yeah
Customary? Yes.
Reasonable? That’s far more complicated. Really depends on your own values
I’d say it’s also reasonable. as guests are expected to bring gifts.
Yes.
