• TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world
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    Manipulative people work hard on being superficially charming. Making people think they are nice and trustworthy is the first step to manipulation. When someone seems too good to be true, it usually is because they are too good to be true.

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      Back in my competitive smash bros days there were so many cliques like this, bizarre ass community. Lots of people superficially loved them but the minute you start to actually get to know them the manipulation and narcissism became immediately clear. That community fosters so much dogshit tbh

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    My childhood friend was like that. His name was Tim. Everyone liked him. He was loud, he was brash. He was a bigger guy. He was not very attractive, but he had charismatic personality, and people were drawn to him.

    And he was such a douchebag.

    I haven’t talked to him in, like, a decade. But last I heard, he was still just douchebagging it up everywhere. No job broke as shit. People still coming over to his house to smoke weed and watch tv even though they’re in their freakin’ 30s and 40s and shit.

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    If this is something that’s coming up often in your life, you might want to consider whether or not you’re seeing through their shit or something else is going on. “If everywhere you go smells like shit, check the bottom of your shoe”.

    I’m pretty sure this is how my little brother felt about me before he went to rehab. He’s happy and successful now and we have a great relationship.

    I’m not saying you necessarily have any issues at all, just that this is what came to mind reading this post.

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    Yup. He wasn’t very attractive (but not ugly either), but was very good at talking to people. Manipulating them and playing them off on one another, delivering just the right amount of praise or scorn at the right time. Complete narcissistic asshole if you knew him well. Not to mention really racist.

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    They exist (think of every scandal involving a jerk celebrity) but I like to hope it’s not that common.

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    Yeah, they invariably end up being die-hard capitalist budding entrepreneur self-made blah blah blah and it all clicks why I didn’t like them but everyone else did.

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    Not IRL, no. Those people just exhaust and disappoint everyone, who would wanna be around them? I’m also from a normal country and not from a “the bag is all that matters, fuck humanity” one so maybe that changes things?

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    I’ve made films and one of my closest friends is a model. Nobody is all that attractive in any objective sense. Moreover, nobody cares how smart anyone else is, and if someone seems loved by everyone around them, congratulate them for finding their tribe. Go find yours and worry less about other people.